Therapy Areas

01.

Grieving before someone passes away is known as pre-bereavement or anticipatory grief.

People facing the death of a loved one who is terminally ill may not be aware they are already experiencing feelings of grief.

Having support from therapy at this time may mean that very little support is needed once the loved one has died because the grief has already been recognised and feelings acknowledged.

The therapy may include:

Just being able to talk to an "outsider" in a safe space to make sense of your feelings. 

Disclosing in confidence any hidden events of the past and identifying unfinished business.

Understanding how to make memories with voice, writing, photographs, memory boxes.

Practical considerations around wills, finance, property.

An eye to the future.

Self Care.

02.

Bereavement Therapy

Grief is the natural response to the death of a loved one. Most people don’t need grief therapists like me, even when the loss is sudden and unexpected. People have natural ways of adapting to the death of a loved one, usually with the support of friends and relatives, and no one way is the right way, just their way.

However, for some people, therapy is required where that natural way of adapting to the death of a loved one has not occurred. This may be as simple as a person who has no support network and just needs to talk to someone, or there may be more deeper feelings and issues to resolve.

The therapy may include:

Just being able to talk to an "outsider" in a safe space to make sense of your feelings. 

Looking at coping strategies.

Working with objects. 

Memory safekeeping and honouring key dates in the calendar.

Looking to the future.

Self Care.

03.

Complicated grief arises when the grief gains a foothold and becomes a chronic, debilitating condition that worsens over time, rather than gets better, with an inability to bounce back. Some people feel consistently upset and preoccupied with the person who has passed away, to the point where relationships and work suffer for months on end, and to the extent they may feel that life has lost its meaning.

There is usually something about the experience that leaves the person who has been bereaved feeling stuck and in a struggle to cope with the emotional impact of their grieving, such as the circumstances of the loss, the relationship with the person who has died, other losses (particularly at an early age), and the personality of the individual who has experienced the loss all play a part. Also any existing mental health conditions can create extra challenges for people trying to cope with their grieving.

The therapy:

Firstly to establish if the Grief is Complicated - if it is then two routes:-

Route 1 is on the same lines as the Bereavement Therapy above, although the sessions will be more in number and over a longer period of time. The number of sessions is at the clients request.

Route 2 is a fixed 16 session course based on the Complicated Grief Treatment pioneered by The Center for Complicated Grief in New York. 

Which route would be the most appropriate would be explored together.

04.

 

For many people the loss of their Pet is as painful and emotionally challenging as the loss of any other family member, and in some cases more so, mainly because of the unconditional love that their pet gave asking nothing in return.

Grief feelings and emotions are the same for Pet loss as they are for Human Loss, so the therapy is very similar. It is perfectly normal to grieve for the loss of a Pet, and the important thing is that you must be allowed to.

Whether your Pet felt like a child to you, or a best friend, or a life saver, or your Pet was a guide or hearing dog, whatever they were to you, it was a special and loving relationship which has now gone, and you are grieving, or maybe you don't know how to, or you may just feel very alone in your grief because nobody understands.

If you have read this far, then perhaps you would like some help.

The therapy for Pet loss is very similar to that for bereavement of a human loved one:

Just being able to talk to an "outsider" in a safe space to make sense of your feelings. 

Looking at coping strategies.

Working with objects. 

Memory safekeeping.

Looking to the future.

Self Care.

05.

Grief is the reaction you have to a loss in your life.

This loss can refer to a death but it can also refer to the loss of physical or cognitive abilities or the loss of something that was routine in your life.

A few examples include:-

Loss of: a limb, eyesight, reproductive ability.

Marital separation, Retirement, Loss of a job. 

Loss of a relationship where the partner has a life debilitating illness eg: Dementia.

The therapy space will provide a safe and confidential environment to talk to an "outsider" who only sees you as you are now in front of them in a non-judgemental way.